• I was taught to treat everyone the same.
  • I don’t see colour.
  • I don’t care if you’re pink, purple or polka-dotted.
  • Race doesn’t have any meaning to me.
  • My parents were/weren’t racist, so that is why I’m not racist.
  • Everyone struggles, but if you work hard…
  • So-and-so just happens to be black, but that has nothing to do with what I am about to tell you.
  • Focussing on race is what divides us.
  • If people are respectful to me, I am respectful to them, regardless of race.
  • Children today are so much more open.
  • I was picked on because I was white/I grew up poor (So I don’t have race privilege).
  • I work in a very diverse environment.
  • I have people of colour in my family/married a person of colour/have children of colour.
  • I was in the military.
  • I used to live in (any racially diverse place).
  • We don’t like how white our neighbourhood is, but we had to move here for the schools.
  • I was in Peace Corps.
  • I marched in the sixties.
  • We adopted a child from China.
  • Our grandchildren are multiracial.
  • I was on a mission in Africa.
  • I went to a very diverse school/lived in a very diverse neighbourhood.
  • I lived in Japan and was a minority, so I know what it is like to be a minority.
  • I lived among the [fill-in-the-blank] people, so I am actually a person of colour.
  • White people are the saviours of black people.
  • Some black children may be innocent, but black adults are morally and criminally corrupt.
  • Whites who are willing to save or otherwise help black people, at seemingly great personal cost, are noble, courageous, and morally superior to other whites.
  • Individual black people can overcome their circumstances, but usually only with the help of white people.
  • Black neighbourhoods are inherently dangerous and criminal.
  • Virtually all black people are poor, incompetent, and unqualified for their jobs; they belong to gangs, are addicted to drugs, and are bad parents.
  • The most dependable route for black males to escape the “the inner city” is through sports.
  • White people are willing to deal with individual “deserving” black people, but whites do not become a part of the black community in any meaningful way (beyond charity work).
  • Maintains white solidarity
  • Closes off self-reflection
  • Trivializes the reality of racism
  • Silences the discussion
  • Makes white people the victim
  • Hijacks the conversation
  • Protects a limited worldview
  • Takes race off the table
  • Protects white privilege
  • Focusses on the messenger, not the message
  • Rallies more resources to white people




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